Sex Toys for Long Distance Couples

Sometimes our loved ones are far away, out of arm’s reach or a long distance from us. I don't know about you, but I've noticed the farther the distance between me and a partner, the more I crave them physically and emotionally.

Lucky for you, we know the best solutions for those craving closeness in long-distance relationships: app-controlled toys specifically designed for long distances.

You and your lover can enrich your imaginations with an app-controlled vibrator, butt plug, or even a cock ring!

So to make things easier for you, we put in the work to find the best app-controlled sex toys on the market. Trust us — the long-distance sex toys we’ve picked are absolute game-changers.

Table of Contents   

• • Criteria for a Quality Long Distance Sex Toy
  • Clitoral Vibrators
  • Butt Plugs & Prostate Vibrators
  • G-Spot Vibrators
  • Dual Stimulation Sex Toys
  • Wand Vibrator
  • Cock Rings
  • How to Connect Your Lovense Toy to the Lovense Connect App
  • How to Connect Your We-Vibe Toy to the We-Vibe We-Connect App
  • How to Connect Your Svakom Toy to the Svakom App
  • How to Clean Your Sex Toys

Our Criteria for a Quality Long Distance Sex Toy

We at Bondesque would never recommend just any toy on the market. Over the years, we have developed high standards everything we offer must satisfy. These kinky standards apply to the sex toys we offer as well!

There are five different criteria we use to analyze each toy. Each toy will be rated out of 5 for the following criteria: vibration quality, toy user-friendliness, toy construction, noise level, and long-distance control.

Keep reading for further explanation on these standards.

Vibration Quality

Vibration quality is critical to the overall experience of the toy. 

The best app-controlled vibrators offer at least 3 different vibration levels. From low rumbles to strong vibrations, it's important that a toy can cater to a variety of individual preferences.

Not only do the toys we recommend offer at least 3 different vibration levels, they also offer a variety of vibration patterns to choose from.

Toys earn extra points when the app allows for customizable patterns and other funky features—different strokes for different folks.

Toy User-friendliness

This user journey is essential. Simple instructions, easy-to-use buttons, and quick to pick up and start are some things we scan while picking the best toy for you. Bonus points to toys that are easy to hold from a variety of angles and long periods of time.

Toy Construction

We prioritize body-safe silicone, water-resistant and water-proof toys, and sturdy, robust materials.

Good quality app-controlled sex toys last for more than an hour, so you and your partner can have multiple steamy, fun rounds!

Because of this, each toy must have an hour or more of playtime.

Extra points if the design is stylish and cool.

Noise Level

As much as public play is an adrenaline rush, it is not ethical to subject non-consenting people to that.

The toys we pick will be rated on their noise levels — no need to worry that others can hear your underwear vibrating!

The more discreet the better!

Long Distance Control

The final measure we check is arguably the most essential feature of every long-distance sex toy....it must be capable of long-distance control.

The control can be through wifi, Bluetooth, an app, or a website link. Bonus points if the app or tool to control the toy is personalizable.

Apps that are capable of syncing up your toy to the beat of your favorite song or playlist and other fun features get bonus kinky points!

Our Recommended Vibrators for Long Distance Relationships

Now that we’ve dissected our “kinky standards”, it’s time to guide you to top-tier long-distance sex toys.

Keep reading for our recommended app-controlled sex toys in all of your favorite categories.

App-Controlled Clitoral Vibrators

 

Sexy Secret by Satisfyer

• Price: $49.99
• Brand: Satisfyer
• Type of Vibrator: Wearable Panty Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 3.5/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4/5
• Toy Construction: 3.5/5
• Noise Level: 4/5
• Long Distance Control: 3.5/5

Extra features:

• - Long-distance control: Satisfyer Connect App, Bluetooth
• - Material: Silicone
• - Waterproof

First runner up is the no-longer secret but still sexy Sexy Secret by Satisfyer.

This clitoral vibrator attaches to panties with a magnet and it fits snugly right where you need it to. The Sexy Secret has flexible rubber to morph with your unique shape. It features an ergonomic design to lay on the clitoris for targeted sensations.

Described as “whisper quiet,” your pleasure at a party, in the grocery store, or wherever else you fantasize about will be an insider exclusive to only you and your partner. A truly private experience.

 

 

Moxie by We-Vibe

• Price: $129.99
• Brand: We-Vibe
• Type of Vibrator: Wearable Panty Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 3.75/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 4.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: We-Vibe We-Connect App, Remote
• Material: Silicone, magnets
• Waterproof

Yet another panty vibrator because we can't get enough of them: Moxie by We-Vibe. This foxy panty vibrator comes in two distinct colors to match your vibe: bright matte aqua and a sexy satin black.

Moxie is designed with a slip-proof magnet to stay in place in your underwear. Regardless of the location or the activity, this vibrator won’t be going anywhere.

The Moxie vibrator boasts ten modes of satisfying vibrations. You and your partner will have multiple different modes to play with from Massage, Temp, Tease, and even Pulse.

No need to be shy of water play — this toy is waterproof! You and your partner can have a clean and slippery date night in the bath or shower with Moxie! Did bath time get even better?

The box includes a USB cable to charge, an illustrated and easy-to-understand user guide, advanced wireless remote control, high-quality We-Vibe Lube, and a convenient storage bag made out of silk.

App-Controlled Butt Plug & Prostate Vibrators

 

Vick Neo by Svakom

• Price: $99.99
• Brand: Svakom
• Type of Vibrator: Prostate Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 3.5/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Svakom App, Bluetooth, Connection via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Designed specifically with the p-spot in mind, you can trust that this vibrating prostate vibrator will hit the spot. This small but powerful vibrator features dual motors that will target not only the prostate but also the perineum, hitting all of your favorite zones.

The Vick Neo boasts 5 vibration intensity levels and 7 vibration patterns. Once fully charged, the Vick Neo offers 2.5 hours of playtime.

Interactive, sleek design with stylish LED lights synchronized with vibrations — and sophisticated waterproof technology makes Vick Neo excellent to play within a hot tub, pool, or shower. It truly is one of the best sex toys for long-distance couples on the market!

Edge 2 by Lovense

• Price: $116.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Wearable Prostate Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 5/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 5/5
• Toy Construction: 4.4/5
• Noise Level: 4.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Next up is Edge 2 by Lovesense. This is another innovative spotlight!

The Edge 2 is the first adjustable prostate massager that promises to hit your sweet spot. With close-range and long-distance control, you and your lover can get playful from anywhere.

Another excellent and unique feature of Edge 2 is its sound-activated vibrations. The speed and intensity can change with your lover's voice or your moans and groans. You can take this on a night out to a bar, a club, and even a concert! Edging yourself or your love is always a favorite.

Hush by Lovense

• Price: $119.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Vibrating Anal Plug

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 3.75/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 5/5
• Toy Construction: 4.5/5
• Noise Level: 4.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof
• Sizes: Small or Medium

Here we have the world’s first teledildonic and wearable vibrator for those with prostates.

The Hush by Lovense is the perfect name as this vibrating butt plug is ghostly quiet. This vibrator can be used discreetly in public, during some solo time, and even for foreplay.

Now, let's praise this unique design of Hush. Hush features the classic bulb shape of a buttplug, but spirals on the neck trap towards the base make it simple to remove—no clumsy fumbling or pain when removing Hush. The neck was also specially designed and tested to ensure it isn't going anywhere during playtime.

App-Controlled G-Spot Vibrators

Jive by We-Vibe

• Price: $119.99
• Brand: We-Vibe
• Type of Vibrator: Wearable G-Spot Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: We-Vibe We-Connect App
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Jive by We-Vibe was made to vibe from the inside. With its smooth silicone and soft oval shape, this g-spot vibrator offers deep, rumbling vibrations to stimulate exactly where you want to be awakened.

This vibrator fits snugly inside once inserted, making this an easy choice for long-distance play in public or private. Let your lover control the toy from the app anywhere in the world.

The Jive features 10 different modes and up to 2.5 hours of playtime.

You can sport the Jive in sassy electric pink or a softer periwinkle blue. No matter the color, this device will make you sing and groove as it hits your G-spot.

Rave by We-Vibe

• Price: $119.99
• Brand: We-Vibe
• Type of Vibrator: G-Spot Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: We-Vibe We-Connect App
• Material: Silicone
• Water-resistant

Please note that the Rave isn’t waterproof. It’s water-resistant. A few splashes of water or bodily fluids won’t hurt, but submerging Rave in the pool water at the pool party will.

This is an extremely versatile and quiet product. It has a simple design but this offers immense internal satisfaction.

This toy's shape allows for easy g-spot pleasure. Apply gentle pressure to your g-spot with the Rave's soft, rounded head. Try a twisting motion for a new sensation!

Lush 3 by Lovense

• Price: $169.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Wearable G-Spot Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 4.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Ooh la la! Lush 3 by Lovense swoops in to make you arch your back, curl your toes, and grip your sheets as your lover controls the vibrations from miles and miles away.

Lush 3 has an ingenious design: a fixed silicone tail that hugs your body’s curves and stays put. It puts pressure on your G-spot and clitoris, sending more waves of pleasure through your body.

Lush 3 has an impressive battery life. It has up to five hours of continuous use. That’s a whole night of sexual pleasure! Don’t expect any sleep with this toy around, or really, you can expect to sleep soundly after hours with Lush 3.

App-Controlled Dual Stimulation Sex Toys

Mono Flex by Satisfyer

• Price: $49.99
• Brand: Satisfyer
• Type of Vibrator: Rabbit Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4/5
• Toy Construction: 3.75/5
• Noise Level: 4/5
• Long Distance Control: 3.5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Satisfyer Connect App, Bluetooth
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Now we introduce a special and unique type of toy — the rabbit vibrator. Yes, this is definitely a metaphor for getting it on as rabbits do.

Mono Flex by Satisfyer has a sleek and straightforward design. This toy comes in three colors: white, red, or pink.

Mono Flex sports two powerful motors that support dual stimulation of the G-spot and the clitoris.

It’s made from silicone technology, making this product silky smooth, soft, and bendable.

This is a waterproof product, so you can use this during some fun water play.

The Satisfyer Connect app is bundled with attractive features like customizable vibrations, sharing orgasm vibrations, and connecting vibration patterns to your favorite songs!

On the app, it offers over 50 different vibration combinations and an unlimited range of customizable vibration settings! If you enjoy the preset programs but want to tweak them a bit, the app lets you do that efficiently.

 

Nora by Lovense

• Price: $129.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Rabbit Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4/5
• Toy Construction: 4.5/5
• Noise Level: 4/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Water-resistant

Nora by Lovense has a rotating head with three different power levels to stimulate you or your partner’s G-spot. The rotating head also vibrates with seven different vibrational modes from Low to Pulse to Earthquake.

And not to worry, the motor and vibrations on Nora are very quiet.

Lovense has revolutionized these toys so your partner can have complete control through their app.

Nora has up to four hours of continuous use and five days of standby time! That’s a long time without needing to recharge Nora.

 

Hyphy by Lovense

• Price: $135.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Clitoral & G-Spot Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 5/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4/5
• Toy Construction: 4.5/5
• Noise Level: 3.75/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

We're a bit tempted to say how hype the Hyphy is, but it can speak for itself.

Hyphy from Lovense is a state-of-the-art dual-end high-frequency vibrator that boasts fast orgasms. A unique and stunning design, made of lilac purple and clean white silicone, it has various attachments to replicate multiple scenarios. This is one of the best sex toys for long-distance relationships.

Hyphy comes with a U-shaped head to stimulate hugging and pinching effects for the clitoris and nipples, a tongue attachment to insert and replicate oral sex, and a circle head for general stimulation.

If this isn't versatile, unique, and efficient, we don't know what is!

Hyphy comes with a stunning hard shell travel case that fits right into it. Discreet, easy to keep clean, and easy to travel with!

This high-end vibrator has a solid and stable connection, is completely waterproof, has multiple different power levels, and is easy for beginners to use!

Some features include long-distance control, unlimited vibration patterns, sound-activated vibrations, and syncing Hyphy vibrations with your favorite songs!

Hyphy promises up to five hours of continuous use. Easily rechargeable with a USB that plugs into a desktop or wall plug.

 

Nova 2 by We-Vibe

• Price: $149.99
• Brand: We-Vibe
• Type of Vibrator: Flexible Rabbit Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 3.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: We-Vibe We-Connect App
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

The last of our unique rabbit vibrator picks is the Nova 2 by We-Vibe.

Nova 2 by We-Vibe has an extremely comfortable, adjustable, and flexible material. It’s made of soft, smooth, easy-to-clean, and body-safe silicone.

It’s waterproof, so your partner can stimulate your clitoris and G-spot while watching you grip your bathtub in pleasure over FaceTime — clean and slippery fun.

An innovative feature of the Nova 2 is its travel lock. Some of us have been in a situation where our vibrators might turn on and rumble in our bags. Nova 2 can automatically lock itself from the app to save us from embarrassment.

Its vibrations are powerful, and its improved adjustable neck can take you to a different dimension.

The app can control its vibrations for you and your partner to have fun. You can also sync Nova 2 to music from the app, customize all vibrations, and have sound-activated vibrations.

It takes about 90 minutes to charge, but it’s worth the wait! It lasts up to 2 hours of fun.

App-Controlled Wand Vibrator

 

 

 

Domi 2 by Lovense

• Price: $125.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Wand Vibrator

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4.5/5
• Noise Level: 3.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Water-resistant

Domi 2 by Lovense is another one of those newly updated products that’s only gotten better since its last release.

Now to really keep the pleasure where you want, Domi 2 now features a reinforced neck. The neck of the wand is flexible, bending with curves of your or your partner’s divine privates.

Domi 2 offers what they call a vibrational “sweet spot”. These sweet spots vibrations vary in intensity. From a featherlight touch to a rumbling earthquake, Domi 2 allows you to set your favorite and customized vibration setting.

With your partner in control, the Domi 2 is bound to reach the itch in you that you just can’t alone.

Of course, this can be connected through wifi, Bluetooth, and on a range of operating systems. The app includes sound-activated vibrations, unlimited vibration patterns, customizable patterns, and the ability to sync to music.

App-Controlled Cock Rings

Bond by We-Vibe

• Price: $129.99
• Brand: We-Vibe
• Type of Vibrator: Vibrating Cock Ring

Kinky Standards:

• Vibration Quality: 3.75/5
• Toy User-friendliness: 4/5
• Toy Construction: 4/5
• Noise Level: 5/5
• Long Distance Control: 4.5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: We-Vibe We-Connect App
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Bond by We-Vibe is adequately named. The wearable cock ring controlled by the app or the advanced remote seeks to strengthen the bond between you and your distant lover.

Not only does Bond offer quiet yet still intense stimulation, it also provides discreet packaging when delivered to you.

At first, customers might be nervous that clips provided to put on cock rings might hurt. But most, if not all, customer reviews delightedly spoke on how comfortable Bond was. No snagging, no pain, not too tight, and it stayed in place.

You can wear Bond at work and let your partner surprise you with little jolts of vibrations whenever they want. Build up the anticipation and connection.

Bond by We-Vibe is made from body-safe silicone and ABS. ABS is a very good, rigid, and sturdy material that ensures your toy isn’t breaking any time soon.

This cock ring has a two-hour run time and only takes 90 minutes to charge.

Extra points for Bond: it offers a premium two-year warranty!

 

 

Diamo by Lovense

• Price: $130.99
• Brand: Lovense
• Type of Vibrator: Vibrating Cock Ring

Kinky Standards: 

• Vibration Quality: 4/5
• Toy User-friendliness:4.5/5
• Toy Construction: 4.5/5
• Noise Level: 4.5/5
• Long Distance Control: 5/5

Extra features:

• Long-distance control: Lovense Connect App, Bluetooth, Live Control via Link
• Material: Silicone
• Waterproof

Lovense has taken the cake for this beautifully intense and versatile cock ring. The Diamo cock ring is perfect for any roleplaying scenario and location.

There are four different ways to wear this external cock ring, and it promises an enhanced experience for each use.

Diamo promises a harder and a prolonged erection, powerful orgasms, and improved sexual stamina!

This vibrating cock ring targets the perineum and can be used in any position, whether standing up, sitting down, on all fours, backward, upside down... it's up to you and your imagination, really!

Up to three hours of continuous play, waterproof, non-irritable body-safe silicone, USB recharging, and a one-year warranty —this might be the best vibrating cock ring on the market.

And this cock ring is one of the only cock rings that are programmed to be used from long distances. Let your partner control your orgasms in public while the only thing you’ll have to control is the faces you’ll make.

Of course, this can be connected through wifi, Bluetooth, and on a range of operating systems. The app includes sound-activated vibrations, unlimited vibration patterns, customizable patterns, and the ability to sync to music.

How to Connect Your Lovense Toy to the Lovense Connect App

Step 1) Download the Lovense Connect app

Step 2) Turn on your phone's Bluetooth

Step 3) Turn on your Lovense Toy

Step 4) In the Lovense app, click the "Link" button on the top right of the home screen

Step 5) Click the "+" button. The app will now search for any available toys to connect to

Step 6) Your toy's name will appear on the screen and say "Connected" below the toy's name

Step 7) Your toy is now connected and will automatically connect to the app when the toy is turned on

How to Connect Your We-Vibe Toy to the We-Vibe We-Connect App

Step 1) Download the We-Vibe We-Connect app onto your phone

Step 2) Turn on your phone's Bluetooth

Step 3) In the We-Vibe app, click the menu icon in the upper lefthand corner

Step 4) In the menu, select "Pair We-Vibe"

Step 5) Turn on your We-Vibe toy. It should pulse twice to indicate that it is on

Step 6) Click the "Pair We-Vibe" button in the app

Step 7) Your app will connect to the toy automatically and you may now control the toy using the app

How to Connect Your Svakom Toy to the Svakom App

Step 1) Download the Svakom Connect app

Step 2) Turn on your Svakom toy

Step 3) Turn on Bluetooth on your phone

Step 4) In the app, click the "+" button in the upper right corner

Step 5) Click the "+ Device" button in the app

Step 6) Click "Search for the Device" button in the app

Step 7) The app will search for your toy. When your toy appears, click the "Connect" button next to it

Step 8) Now your toy is connected to the app!

How to Clean Your Sex Toy

Now that you have your long distance sex toy, it's important to keep your toy clean. A clean toy prevents bacteria growth and will help your toy live a long, pleasurable life.

There were 2 different types of toys mentioned in this blog: waterproof toys and water-resistant toys. Please read below for information on how to clean these 2 different types of toys.

How to Clean Waterproof Sex Toys

We know that not all soaps are made equal. It is important to use soaps that will not affect the quality of your sex toy's materials and body. All of the toys that were listed in this blog are made mostly with body-safe silicone.

To clean a waterproof toy made out of silicone, begin with a rinse of the toy in lukewarm water.

Lather the toy using an anti-bacterial, silicone-safe soap. We recommend this foaming cleanser from Wicked.

Be sure to get all of the cracks and crevices of the toy when lathering.

Rinse the toy thoroughly with lukewarm water and pat dry with a soft cloth. 

Store your toy where it will not be exposed to extreme temperatures.

How to Clean Your Water-Resistant Sex Toy

Because this toy is water-resistant, we know that the toy cannot be fully submerged in water. It is important to follow these guidelines as submerging the toy may damage it. If the toy is under warranty, the warranty will not cover any issues with the toy due to water damage.

To avoid running into the issue, we recommend using wipes and cloth.

Begin with a moderately wet/damp soft cloth. Wipe down the toy and be sure to get the cracks and crevices.

For water-resistant toys, I personally love to use these anti-bacterial, silicone-safe cleansing wipes.

Give the toy a good wipe down.

Finish cleaning with damp, soft cloth. Pat dry and store in a place where the toy won't be exposed to extreme temperatures.