Find Your Favorite Toys & Gear from “How to Build a Sex Room”
If you find yourself excited to peruse through this article, it’s safe to say that "How to Build a Sex Room" opened the doors to some new fantasies for you! It is so exciting to find new kinky things you're into, and we're here to make it easy to find what you need to fulfill your newfound desires.
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I can probably guess that you too are a fan of the spunky Melanie Rose and all the gear, toys, & furniture she showed us. Truly the Mary Poppins of sex rooms, we adore Melanie Rose for showing accurate representations of the world of kink, BDSM, and spicy sex lives. I binged the entire series in 2 days (oops), and compiled a list of everything she mentions. I just knew people would want to know more about all of these new exciting things!
If you’re ready to dive in and find everything that you were curious about, keep reading.
From sex swings to floggers to beginner's bondage kits, let’s get into it!
Melanie Rose sure does love aesthetically-pleasing BDSM gear. You can’t just have any blindfold – it has to be both beautiful and practical.
Introducing these leather blindfolds. Slip one on during any kinky activity and feel those senses heighten. Pair them with restraints and take play time to the next level.
Available in two styles, these blindfolds are classic and sexy.
One of the best restraint kits out there, if you’re ready to dip your toes into bondage and restraints but aren’t sure where to start, this kit is perfect for you.
Lauded as one of the most comfortable, affordable, and discreet kits on the market, the fact that it is so easy to put together truly is the cherry on top!
It’s no wonder that Melanie gave this kit to so many couples.
Wrist Cuffs: $70.99 / Ankle Cuffs: $82.99
Aslan Leather cuffs are easy to use and can be attached to just about anything (bed frames, chairs, tables, you name it).
We love that both the wrist and ankle cuffs are available in many beautiful colors (pink, purple, etc.) – if you’re going to buy cuffs, you just have to buy the complete set!
Silk Rope: $24.99 / Hemp Rope: $44.99
Explore the world of rope and you’ll discover there are seemingly limitless things you can do with rope. From simple wrist cuffs to rope corsets to bed restraints, you will never get bored with rope!
Both hemp and silk are great options for anyone at any level, so you really can’t go wrong!
And if you decide to buy, don’t forget safety scissors!
For the lovers of art, I would be surprised if the Shibari rope suspension scene in “How to Build a Sex Room” didn’t pique your interest. This sensual kink is both a performance art and an erotic activity to partake in with your play partner of choice.
Get yourself some rope (a lot of it) and a suspension bar, and you’ll be ready to go. We highly recommend taking in-person rope workshops and finding some reliable Shibari tutorial videos.
The Duchy has taught me almost everything I know about rope bondage! Created by a long-time BDSM practitioner, The Duchy was made with the sole focus of offering thorough rope bondage resources. Not only does the site offer a wide selection of tutorials, they’re all free to access.
I was so pleased that Melanie Rose talked about floggers so often on the show. If you find yourself fantasizing about spanking and being spanked, I encourage you to check out leather floggers. Durable and beautiful, floggers are a popular and thrilling way to explore impact play.
Different from using your hand or a paddle, floggers have individual strips of a material (called falls) that give you a unique sensation upon impact that is unlike anything else.
These floggers are high-quality and affordable. Made with real, soft leather and available in multiple colors.
Crops are so fun to play with and can be used in a variety of ways. They can be used delicately (great for warming up) or with force for a stinging sensation. I personally love to use them to discipline my play partner -- there are so many ways to use crops creatively.
This crop is made with real, soft leather. Easy to grip and great for anyone at any level of experience. Be sure to discuss everyone’s comfort level with bruising before playing with a crop!
If you’re a fan of lightning, you just might be a fan of the classic Neon Wand that was featured on “How to Build a Sex Room.” Electro-stimulation is a popular way to explore sensory play. Neon Wands are easy to use and an affordable way to get into electro-sex.
This kit includes beautiful glass attachments so you can see the electricity flow (be sure to dim the lights in your sex room to get the full experience). There are endless ways to play with a Neon Wand – they are a staple electro-stim toy for a reason!
Starting at $13.99
Pinwheels are not as scary as they look! These versatile tools can be used just about anywhere on the body, although you must be gentle on some areas more than others. As a general rule of thumb, you can apply pressure on the meaty parts of the body (butt & thighs), but be careful not to place too much pressure on certain places.
Behind the knees, the neck, the spine, and other areas could be potentially harmful to play with. As always, be communicative with each other while you play.
Use them gently for light sensory play or apply more pressure to feel the sting. Using pinwheels on your body gives your body no option but to be acutely aware of the sensations they give you. As you can probably imagine, they pair well with restraints.
Keep your partner quiet and subdued with a ball gag. Breathable ball gags are a great choice for those just beginning to try out ball gags or anyone who wants to wear a gag for a longer period of time.
Made with a soft silicone and available in multiple colors & sizes.
Melanie Rose sure is cheeky, so I wasn’t surprised when she suggested nipple clamps to a couple. Clamps add another level of sensation to sexy time.
My favorite way to use them is to clamp them shortly after the nipples get hard and excited. They keep the nipples hard while flooding them with sensation. I always recommend adjustable clamps if you’re just beginning to try them out so you can figure out your favorite way to play with them.
Yet another fantastic suggestion made by the Mary Poppins of sex rooms. As an Njoy diehard, I can attest that they are one of the highest quality butt plugs around. The tapered tip was made for easy insertion and the slim neck will give you peace of mind that your butt plug isn’t going anywhere!
The best part about these anal plugs? They are weighted and available in multiple sizes so anyone of any comfortability level can use them.
Truly one of the most powerful g-spot vibrators on the market. As a personal fan of all things Lovense, I can report that this toy delivers! Its unique shape was made to target your g-spot with deep, rumbly, and strong vibrations. This toy is easy to insert and stays put once it’s in.
Lovense makes not only the best toys out there, but also the best app. Using the app, you can sync the vibrations up to the beat of the club’s music, make a custom pattern, and so many other fun features. Your partner can control the toy from 10 feet to thousands of miles away.
If you’re in a long distance relationship, check out these other toys that were made to be controlled across any distance.
One of the most popular vibrators for couples out there. This wearable vibrator stimulates the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. You heard me correctly. Everyone’s favorite feature? You can even wear this vibrator during penetrative sex. It truly is fun for everyone involved.
We-Vibe also has a great app that has loads of fun features and can be used while thousands of miles apart!
I loved all of the strap-on play representation in the show! Purchasing a high-quality strap-on harness is a must for a good strap-on/pegging session.
One of our favorite leather makers, Aslan Leather, designs and creates beautiful, comfortable leather harnesses. They're made to last you a long time, but if something happens to your harness down the line, Aslan Leather offers a lifetime warranty on all of their products.
These harnesses are highly adjustable and available in multiple colors & styles.
One of my favorite episodes of the series featured a lesbian couple living out of a Sprinter van (they’re so brave for that). They were quite open about their love of strap-ons, and I still can’t get over how cute their pink dildo looked in their leather harness.
This dildo is smooth and non-phallic. Available in multiple colorful styles to suit your personal taste. This dildo is a great size and shape for those just beginning to explore strap-on play. The slight curve makes this a great option for g- and p-spot stimulation.
Free up your hands when you’re using this toy. Vibrating and self-thrusting, this toy can’t wait to do all the work for you over and over again. Featuring an insertable end with curves to target your g-spot as it thrusts. The clitoral stimulator vibrates and is wide to make sure it hits all of those nerve endings!
This toy truly changes up the game. One of the best vibrator designers on the market, Fun Factory does not play around when they design toys!
If you have a clitoris, you need to know that Womanizer toys will change your life. Clitoral suction toys imitate cunnilingus in the most powerful way. These toys were made to cup around your clitoris and stimulate those nerve endings until you can’t handle it anymore.
Womanizer toys feature 14 levels of intensity, a quiet motor, and are completely waterproof. Melanie Rose truly wants us all to have the orgasm of a lifetime!
The rechargeable Le Wand is a high-quality, powerful wand vibrator. Ditch the cords and bring this petite wand everywhere you go.
Use them on anyone and anywhere. Le Wand has 10 intensity levels so if you’re really sensitive or you love intense vibration, Le Wand will cater to your needs no matter what.
One of the best features of the Le Wand? They have wand attachments that take the versatility of this toy to the next level.
If there is one thing that you’ll never forget about Melanie Rose, it’s that she loves a good sex swing! I swear she suggested one to every couple she could and for good reason too!
Expand your imagination and get creative. Try out new positions and ways to be kinky with each other. If you’re creating a sex room, you simply have to have a sex swing in it.
This versatile swing is easy to install and features two large straps and two smaller straps to help you find every position you’ve fantasized about and discover new ones too.
Sex Toy Pillow: $159.99 / Wedge: $105.99
Who can resist finding the perfect position easily? Use these specially-designed pillows to spice up your play.
Place the wedge beneath your partner to support their body comfortably as you play with them.
The sex toy pillow is great for coupled and solo play. Mount your favorite toy in the pillow to keep it in the perfect spot.
If you’re really looking to make Melanie Rose proud, adding a tantra sex chair to your sex room will surely earn you brownie points. As you likely saw throughout the series, the tantra sex chair helps you find the perfect positions for both you and your partner. It’s so beautiful and elegant, you can hardly tell it’s made to be kinky.
I was so happy when Melanie Rose taught so many couples about St. Andrew’s Crosses. A versatile piece that is a must-have for any sex room or dungeon. Attach your favorite restraints to any (or all) of the corners of the cross and pair it with your favorite impact toy — now you’re ready to have a good time!
These benches are also great for restraints and spanking. The biggest difference between the St. Andrew’s Cross and the spanking bench is that the person getting spanked and restrained is forced to kneel.
If you or your partner find yourself squirming during play, this bench will keep you in your place.
Take your sex room or dungeon up a notch!
Better get building!
What're you waiting for? Build the sex room of your dreams. Having a safe place to explore your sexual fantasies is something you will never regret.