BDSM Books 

Our curated selection of books is a rich resource for those interested in exploring BDSM and sexual wellness. Covering everything from gender expression to advanced shibari to BDSM negotiations, all of our educational texts are written by experts to teach you new techniques and expand your knowledge across a variety of topics including: 

• BDSM
• Domination
• Submission
• Shibari/Rope Bondage
• Kink
• Impact Play
• Anal Sex
• Chastity
• Erotic Fiction
• Gender Expression
• Oral Sex
• Orgasms
• Polyamory
• Strap-on play

Whatever aspect of sexuality you are interested in learning about, we have a book to guide you. Explore our book selection at our brick-and-mortar store or here online!

FAQs:

I'm curious about BDSM but have never explored it before. What are some of the books that you suggest? 

Some of the books we recommend for starting your exploration are BDSM 101 by Rev. Jen and SM 101 by Jay Wiseman. Both are comprehensive and popular guides for beginners that introduce readers to the foundations of BDSM.

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon is another classic resource that uses a lighthearted and conversational tone to walk the reader through the basics of exploring sadomasochistic relationships. The BDSM Contract is a great conversation starter for couples who are looking for a way to explore and express their kinky desires together.  

My partner and I want to try rope bondage – are there any books to show us how?

If you are interested in learning some simple rope knots to use in the bedroom 40 Knots and How to Tie Them by Lucy Davidson is a great starting point. For those looking for a more comprehensive guide, Foundations of Rope by theduchy is an incredible step-by-step rope manual.

Any suggestions on books about strap on play and pegging? 

We love the Adventurous Couple's Guide to Strap-On Sex  by Violet Blue for anyone interested in adding strap-on play to their repertoire. If you are thinking of exploring pegging, we also recommend The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman PhD and Aislinn Emirzian. This accessible and practical guide will help you explore all kinds of safe and enjoyable anal play, including pegging.

For those who are interested in vaginal strap-on sex, we recommend The Good Vibrations Guide: The G Spot by Cathy Winks. Regardless of who you are topping we have books that are sure to help you maximize your partner’s pleasure as well as your own. 

We want to explore spanking in the bedroom. What are some techniques?  

If you are looking to explore some classic spanking, a great introductory book is Spanking for Lovers by Janet Hardy. If you are looking for a more intense impact play experience, we recommend checking out Flogging by Joseph W. Bean. Whatever your experience level or desired intensity, we have a book that can help you.  

I want to learn how to become a dominatrix. What books could help me?  

A great starting point is The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei Powers. This witty and fun book is an inspirational guide to exploring your dominant side. The Sexually Dominant Woman by Lady Green is a friendly introduction for beginners who are feeling nervous about taking control. The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy is a great manual for aspiring dominants of any gender and is inclusive of current terminology and issues, like navigating online relationships and safety.  

I want to explore my submissive side. What books do you recommend?  

Like it’s counterpart The New Topping Book, The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy is an inclusive and accessible manual for beginners, covering everything from negotiations to headspace. This book is a great introduction for anyone interested in trying out a submissive role. Conquer Me by Kacie Cunningham is a friendly guide to asserting your desires and needs as a submissive within a BDSM relationship.  

I’m interested in exploring my gender expression. Do you have any resources to help? 

Yes! Whether you identify as transgender and are looking for a guide to help you navigate transition or you are interested in exploring crossdressing and sissification, we have great books on gender expression. The T Guide by Gottmik and Gigi Gorgeous is a fashion-forward and celebratory resource book for transgender people and allies.

Miss Vera's Cross Gender Fun for All by Dr. Veronica Vera is a great introductory tool for anyone wanting to play with their gender expression. She weaves stories from her many years running Miss Vera’s Finishing School with practical tips for a book that is both heartfelt and helpful. 

Do you have any books about navigating polyamory?

One of our most popular books about exploring polyamory is The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. The authors of this book cover topics such as communication, safety, and managing jealousy. Full of practical skills and prompts for introspection, this guidebook is one of the best introductions to open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. Open by Jenny Block and Opening Up by Tristan Taormino are both great resources for couples who are considering exploring non-monogamy and open marriage together.